Sorry, this is a quickie post because ua leva le po. leai se mea school ua faia. big faalavelave (:
On Monday (Labour Day), the P'sens came over for dinner with....panipopo.
Our friend Nets was making them and decided to drop a tray off with the above.
I was both happy to inhale the panipopo but slightly taken aback by the fact that Nets didn't drop off a tray for me.
So I called to blow her ears off and get my head blown off instead, she left several messages on phone while wasn't switched on.
- yessir, I am still utterly hopeless with carrying my phone, responding to calls and texting. I just dont have the energy for it.
Annnnnnnnnyhow, in the midst of all this catch up and faikakalarations, I find out that people we know very well have had some problems, which may or may not have resulted in a physical altercation that is commonly called beating up your wife fasi ava.
I am sick and tired of this.
What can I do? (and dont say be there to listen and support - I am sick of the excuses).
This is not the first couple, nor the last who I thought I knew well that have ended up like this.
I am sick of it.
Men who do this - that I know of - have so much in common:
They are normally nice, friendly even, social, caring (ioe) but they have some weaknesses:
They do not have the intellectual capacity to deal with problems in a sensible (non violent) manner.
They hit the roof, hurt their partner and then go begging them and declaring their love while the partners face is fulafula from the beating.
The women they are with are so smitten by them that they see past their Sickness.
Last by not least, all the men I know who do this are: SAMOAN.
They think it is okay to "faasa'o" (correct) their partner thru violence.
I asked two of these shits why they do it and typical laughing response..."se ua ova le fiapoko ae kasi a le aiga o le po, uma ma le guku oso".
Women should not allow this to happen to them, there is help available, we (your family and friends) are here to support you, and take care of you, but at the end of the day, YOU have to find the courage to get out of that hole. We wont judge you, We care. We want the best for you.
While you are alive. this time.
We love you.